WARPED THINKING

When pp have kids, they shouldn't be doing it with the intention of securing their own future, placing the burden of elderly care on their own children. Childern are born into this world not of their choice, but of the actions of their parents. Hence it is the responsibility of the parents to nuture and care for the child. Any sacrifices made along the way should have been accounted and planned for way before the decision to embark on this life-mission. It is the same as having a pet - you're responsible for its whole life. And even if it turns out to be an unsatisfactory pet, u just have to accept that life isn't fair. It is no fault of the kids or pets if they dun meet their parents' requirement. It wasn't their choice to be born or adopted in the first place.

Every person is an individual with their own thoughts, aspirations and plans. Every person is unique and live their lives differently. As a parent, one should not enforce your way of life and thinking on your child and expect them to be just like you. If a person prefers to work hard, suffer and sacrifice for a brighter future, so be it -- it is a conscious personal choice. If a person decides to fight for their dreams NOW -- why is that so hard to understand? Must one always be secure financially to be happy and fulfilled in this world? NO.

Look at all the rich and accomplished pp? Are ALL of them happy and fulfilled as they seem to be? Are they kind and nice pp just becos they hv a stable income and no worries for the future? Nope. It is more impt in this life to live it with meaning, with kindness, to be a better person. If there is no beauty within, no love for oneself and others as a person, then there is no point in beautifying the exterior or securing the future.

Life
is best when simple, beautiful and pure.
Not clouded with negativity, pettiness and cruelty.

A family should signify care and love for each other, not expectations, obligations and repayment. Filial piety is so overpriced in our culture that it is meaningless if done out of pure obligation.

Once a child is an adult, their lives should be theirs to plan, not bound by parental expectations. Pp are responsible for their own lives, whether it turns out successful or not. They should have the freedom to choose how they live becos that is the only thing they truly have.

Kampong Jalan Jalan

So it was this very hot day....

that we decided to explore our countryside...

and these are the tibits we found!

My New HOBBY!!

Chemistry...

What makes people like other people?
Is it becos these people make them feel good? Either about themselves or they have fun with these people? So they classify them as friends and invite them into their inner circle? Is it becos they fit into their social circle and are easy to relate to?

Why do we have to strive so hard for certain relationships and friendships, whilst others just fall into our laps and click instantaneously?
Chemistry.
Chemistry??

Why do some relationships work, and some not, despite the intentions?
Why do some people like you, even if you dun like them, or are not even aware they exist? Whilst with others you are almost invisible, or have to keep striving just to be acknowledged?
Should you keep trying? When is it time to let go?
Should you let go?

Can you be sad, yet ok even if things do not go the way you want them to?
Can you tell yourself, yes you are happy cos someone loves you? Is it enuff? Or must everyone you love, love you back? Perhaps that is the ultimate goal, ultimate acceptance and acknowledgement we seek.

There is a fundamental core, a believe that roots each of us. I believe love is forever, despite the many changes we get swept up in. Sometimes relationships sour or discontinue, yet when you're thinking about it, the cord is still there.
We are never truly separated from those who mean something to us, eventhough in reality we never meet again.

I am happy that I'm loved and treasured. And in turn I do my best to love and treasure.
Still... there a part of me that aches sometimes. Just a little.

Living?

My dad raised the issue of taking an overseas position in China, 3 years shy of retirement. It wasn't the first time he raised the issue, but it had always sounded like the company would like him to go, but he is reluctant.

Last week's conversation, I finally realized, he WANTED to go. Like the final adventure before he retires. It is something he had always wanted to do: take an overseas posting. He never did it when we were kids, because it would have been too disruptive, and plus, who was to care for granny? Now that the kids have kids, this is no longer a problem. Except, he wanted someone to support him in his decision.

Not complain that he is forsaking the granny, or the grandchildren.

I suppose it is so bizarre to realize that dad is just like me, wanting to sniff a different air.